A reader emailed me recently following my article on dinner tips (where and where NOT to take her). He wanted advice following the date on how to keep her interest. So here’s my personal advice. Some male qualities are more impressive than others; but there are certain qualities that women just find absolutely outstanding. If you haven’t heard the news yet, having these certain qualities will make you stand out from the other males of the land and make you even more attractive to them ladies (yay).
So here are the qualities that you should sow in your personality (or at least develop further if, you think, you already have it). Here are also tips on how to make the girl see that you actually possess these qualities (because saying you’re so much into cleanliness is not as convincing as putting away some stray piece of trash to the trash bin). Honesty is the top quality. Nobody likes conning, deceiving, opportunist men who would lie right into our faces. Trust is one of the most important, most essential parts of any relationship – romantic, platonic, and familiar – and honesty is one of the foundations of it. Without it, a lady would gladly forget about taking you seriously and not believe practically anything you say. Honesty, however, is different from being blunt and tactless. Honestly comes with carefully telling the truth and avoiding offense while at it. If the food is bad, if her dress color does not flatter her, say so – but always say so in a nice way. Trust me, girls will appreciate it more than not. Find out here why telling the truth is sexy.
After honesty comes chivalry. Whoever said chivalry is dead is either a very crass and careless man, or some woman who has never seen one. But to many women, the ability to show how to care for a woman without offending her feminist ideals. It’s about showing a woman how she deserves to be treated without making her feel like she’s inferior. Start with offering an arm when walking or a hand when at the stairs, and opening and closing the car door for her. Who says you can’t flirt while being gentleman? I came across this article on flirting and it’s surprising how it related flirting with chivalry. If she takes it lightly and appreciatively, well and good; if not, you take it lightly and carry on as if nothing happened.
Thirdly is thoughtfulness. Don’t we all love thoughtfulness from our partners? That’s one reason why some men prefer dating older women! A bouquet of roses for a first date is imperative and expected. But a random package of flowers, a small note of ‘Hello’, or a nothing-I-just-want-to-say-hi kind of phone call out of nowhere is something that will not be forgotten by ladies. It’s the little things, the small efforts, of men reminding us that we are special and that they are thinking about us that really make our hearts skip a beat.
And the last top quality is respectfulness. They say a good measure of a man’s character is how he treats those who can’t do anything for him. Girls are very observant and they will notice how you treated that waitress, how you looked at the old woman at the line at the bank, and how you remarked at the stray dog outside your car. These say a lot about the kind of person you are and especially they give women a glimpse at what kind of boyfriend you will be if you guys go all the way.
If you already have them, congratulations keep it up. If not, you might want to start sowing the seeds as early as – yes – NOW or you might turn her off.
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