Hullo and welcome,
Okay, so a few dating experts will suggest that a dinner date for a first or second date is not a great idea. It’s expensive, it’s ineffective, and at some point or another, it gets nerve wracking. But you don’t have a choice or you’re feeling rebellious (and quite frankly, maybe a little uncreative) and you’ve decided to go against the odds and meet her for a dinner date.
Personally, in my time as a dating writer I think these so called experts are wrong. And I have a Harvard education to back me up. What’s the worst that could happen anyway? You choke on your food? She’s allergic to seafood? They serve bad meals? You run out of cash to pay for your caviar?
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One of the secrets to a successful dinner date is to know where to take her and where not to take her. So here’s some heads up for men out there who are less than skilled when it comes to finding the right places for some suave dinner dates:
Where to Take Her
It’s important to a place that’s within your budget. There is practically nothing more embarrassing than running low on cash or your card getting rejected because of your dinner bill. Perhaps the only thing worse than that is to have to borrow money from your date to pay for the bill. So choose a place that’s decent enough but is within your financial capacities. Here’s a list of cheap places to go on a date.
But make sure it’s a place that you will both enjoy. It does not need to be the most expensive food joint around. Go somewhere you will both enjoy – the place, the food (more importantly), and trust me, you’ll enjoy each other’s company better. SO what if your first dinner date was at the neighborhood burger joint? If it reminds you both of your fun childhood, or you just plainly love their heavenly burgers, then go ahead and take her to a burger date!
It might be a good idea to go to a place where you’d likely not meet common friends. Meeting friends while on a date can be very awkward. Just when you’re trying to be comfortable with each other, you meet someone who reminds her of why she hates men and then the whole night is ruined. Flop. So find a place where you’d least likely meet people you know – mutual or not – so you could focus on each other.
Where NOT to take her
Don’t go in for anywhere with messy food place i.e. crabs, lobsters, fish and chips, barbecue etc. You both dressed up for the occasion. You’re both very tensed and pressured to make an impression. A messy meal that makes you look like savage carnivores or a family member of the Croods after dinner is definitely not a good idea. Leave that for when you guys are comfortable with each other. Secondly, avoid comedy bars/restaurants. The purpose of a dinner date is to get a chance to sit down in a quiet place, talk and enjoy some good food, and have some cutler to fidget with your hands to hide your shakes. A comedy bar, with all the boisterous laughing and the comedian taking up everyone’s attention will not give you a chance to know each other better – save for knowing so well how she snorts when she laughs.
And whatever you do don’t take her for a family dinner. Really? Take your date to dinner with your family? What is she, your best friend? If you are seriously thinking of bringing her to a family dinner, you seriously need to see the SIBG guide to flirting with girls. That would be the most horrible dinner date idea on the face of the planet!